4. I’m Learning to Sit With Loneliness Without Letting It Define Me

Loneliness has been one of the most constant emotions in my life. I don’t really have friends I talk to every day but I have my coworkers that we have boundaries so you really cannot vent out to them when every thing feels heavy, and there are times when the silence around me feels overwhelming. There are days when I wish I had someone who would check on me, someone I could share small moments with, or someone who would simply listen.

For a long time, I believed that being lonely meant I was unlovable. I blamed myself for not fitting in society beauty standard, for not being outgoing enough, or for not having a strong social circle. But slowly, I’m beginning to understand that loneliness is not a measure of my worth it’s just a season I’m in or a phase for every girls on their menstrual cycle.

Instead of hating myself for being alone, I’m learning how to be comfortable with my own presence. I’m learning how to reflect, how to understand my emotions, and how to become someone who doesn’t need constant validation to feel whole. I can go out alone, have a me time, mouse moment or even treat myself like eating alone outside.

I still hope to build meaningful connections someday. But until then, I’m choosing to treat myself with kindness rather than judgment. Loneliness may be painful, but it doesn’t define who I am.

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