6. I’m Learning to Be Gentle With Myself When I Fa

I am very hard on myself. Every mistake feels like proof that I’m not good enough. I replay my failures repeatedly, convincing myself that I should have done better. I blame myself for beeing too easy to give up on something when others can do it even they struggle as well.


What I’m trying to do now is respond with compassion instead of criticism. I remind myself that mistakes are part of growth, not evidence of failure.


Being gentle with myself doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility, it means allowing myself to learn without destroying my self-worth. I am learning that not every has the same situation, I am learning to not invalidate my situation and feelings.

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